My nose is red, my eyes are puffy, I hope I helped my aunt a bit - my grandmother could only handle speaking with me for a minute before she had to hand it off to Diddy, and poor Diddy is so worn out, so emotionally exhausted, but we talked for nearly an hour, swinging from laughing to crying back to laughing within the same minute.
I tried to advise her as much as I could - it WILL get easier, the grief will begin to strike in odd moments instead of with every breath you take, and the road will smooth out. I also advised her to be prepared, because sometimes, folks like my grandfather, in the space between that he is, will wait until no one is watching, and then let go. They may all be in the kitchen, or stepped out for the mail, and that will be all. And to not try to not let that happen - let it happen, if it does.
He's turned a corner. He has a fever and today was a bad day.
I can't do much but cry with her from 350 miles away.
But right now, she's daddy's only girl watching him die before her eyes. And I've been there, but mine was quick, and hers has dragged out for months and I worry for her now.
Send candles/prayers/thoughts for Robert, Betty, and Diddy. My dad is there, I know he is, he sent the raccoon that my cousin's dog is after for comic relief. I know it.
It won't be long. Could be tonight, could be a couple of weeks - Diddy feels it will be sooner than she or Grandma are really, truly prepared for, or my uncles.
Oh, damn, why does it have to hurt so much.