As I was coming home from giving my boyfriend a ride to work I noticed a sign. It read 'FREE DIRT [clean and high-quality]'. This made me wonder, both about the dirt and life in general. Can something really be two opposing things at once? And, if it can, what category do you put it in? Can you love someone you hate? Can a person be both good and bad for you? These are questions I was already pondering when I saw the sign for the 'clean dirt'.

In relationships, we've been trained to put people into two categories... positive influences or negative influences in our lives. Sometimes, though, it's difficult to ascertain which spot someone really belongs in. And, sometimes, people change, so we move them into the appropriate place at the time. For instance, recently someone who I thought was a good friend turned out to not really care at all about me, one way or the other. Just days before the circumstances surrounding my realizing this came into play, I would have called her a friend. Now, we do not speak. It is my belief that a person's true colors come out in conflict, and that was certainly true with this individual.

So, this example would seem to prove that things can be only one type... clean or dirty, good or bad, but that things are not always what they seem. Maybe the dirt is more appealing if someone tells us it's 'clean'... but deep down, we all know it's still dirt, right?